By Your Side

On a sunny day, a long time ago It was 1980 and I had just turned sixteen.

A beautiful little boy, with his big blue eyes and his bright blonde hair said to me, “My daddy’s not going to die like your daddy did.  He told me so.”

I fought back my tears and wished that my dad had remembered to tell me that…so he could still be with me….and I said “Yeah, your right, your daddy’s not going’ die”.  I prayed to God that it would be so!!!

Three generations now and life doesn’t turn out like you thought it would be.

More people get the cancer.  It just doesn’t seem right.

They gave you the concrete mind.  You fight hard for your family.  You look up facts, make appointments and call researchers, send emails.  No answers yet.

Not one more child should have to lose a loved one to this deadly disease.

Channeling June and Johnny when you get the news that you have the gene.  Will you be the next in line?  Their love shown through in every song they sang.  Maybe some other love has been carrying you through?  Their love that has been with you through thick and thin.  It has been there all the while.  Getting the right people on your side, keeping people here who shouldn’t be, leading you in the right direction, giving you the answers.

We are now 4 generations and it is time for this to end.  Children have moms and dads and grandmas that they want to have around.  That little boy is now a man with children of his own.  It’s time for all of us to say, “I’m going to be here with you for a long time”.  Take charge, take care!!!  There is hope.

When it’s my time, when I see Marj and Bob again, I’m going to give them both a great big hug and kiss.  Tell them how much I have missed them.  Most of all, thank them for never leaving me!!!!

Marj and Bob dancing sent by Mary Dierig Stowers after dad's funeral

Marj and Bob dancing
sent by Mary Dierig Stowers after dad’s funeral

 

Go to the following link if you would like to know more about Lynch Syndrome , hereditary colon cancers and genetic testing.

 

Local Celeb Liz Bonis Shares Her Fitness Advice

With spring just on the horizon, I am sure that the thought of getting into those summer clothes has been weighing heavily on your mind, just like it has been on mine 🙂  My favorite girl Amy Poehler had this to say in the March issue of Ladies Home Journal when she described her version of the perfect exercise class.  

Personal trainers are people who yell at you to keep pushing. I’m like, “No, you keep pushing!” My idea of the perfect exercise class is this: The teacher gives us all a hug and goes, “You did it! You showed up! Let’s lie down.” We all lie down and she’s like, “How is everybody feeling?” We’re like, “Great!” And the teacher’s like, “Great!” Then we all get to leave 20 minutes early.

While Amy certainly keeps us smiling, her idea of exercise isn’t going to make us look very good in our summer clothes. So I decided to look for some expert tips on how to incorporate exercise and healthy eating into our busy schedules.   I turned the tables on Liz Bonis, medical reporter for Local 12, nutritionist and personal trainer.  Liz graciously agreed to share her advice with us here!!!!

Liz Bonis  Local 12 Health Reporter/Nutritionist/Personal Trainer

Liz Bonis Local 12 Health Reporter/Nutritionist/Personal Trainer

On getting motivated to exercise

I am embarrassed to tell you that I really only exercise because without it, I am a little piglet.  I know it’s good for me.. but that’s not enough motivation.. so I started just making myself get up..and getting in five to ten minutes on the treadmill before the day started.   If you don’t do it first, you will be too tired later.   It is still just a decision every day… and a hard one.  There’s no secret.   To quote Bobby Knight, “discipline is just knowing what you need to do, and doing it every day”.  So now I do at least a ten k, every day, on the treadmill ..sometimes at 2 or 3 am before work…and it never gets easy…and I don’t really like it.  I just like the way I feel after I do it!

On fitting exercise into a busy schedule and maintaining motivation

The most helpful thing I learned, was that the reasons you can’t exercise, are not really important.  If it’s not the priority, I(you) will do everything else and never get to it.  So I look at it that if all the social things come first.. I don’t have those to do if I am not healthy… and being healthy allows me to do all that other stuff… such as work, and eat out, and be active and have energy… it’s not all that stuff first, and exercise second…

Liz’s tips for healthy eating

I don’t have any forbidden foods, there are no good or bad foods, there are good and bad quantities of foods.. I can’t diet..but I can eat less of what I want…some days… I don’t own a scale and choose not to assign “good” or “bad” to any foods.  I do however try to eat a plant-based diet for health reasons…meaning…I try to make most of the plate fruits and veggies..less meat, cheese, fried food etc… I also eat six times a day.. at least.. or if I wait too long.. I will pig out …

What I love about Liz is she is just like that rest of us…and what  I like most about her advice is how approachable she makes it all.  Surely if she can get up at 2:00-3:00 in the morning to exercise, then it really is doable for even the busiest of schedules.  Breaking it down into 10 minute chunks also makes exercising seem like a realistic goal.  After all, It does make us feel good!!!!  I like too that there are no “bad” foods in her book.  I would really hate to feel deprived of anything….and science has shown that 5-6 small meals a day are better than 3 big ones.

Looks like I am getting back on the exercise bandwagon.  I can’t wait to begin taking my morning walks with my friends Clair and Hazel.  How about you?  Tell us about your exercise routine or how you plan to eat better…

Thanks to Liz Bonis for sharing your great advice!!  It was wonderful getting to know you better 🙂